Hey you
I’m Mark aka The Essence Coach
and I am on a mission to create more harmony amongst committed couples, especially Highly Sensitive couples, and I am passionate about transforming the quality of connection and intimacy that these couples experience.
I love supporting committed couples to move beyond the performance-based sex that most of us learn, to completely re-imagine what is possible for lovemaking, intimacy and connection.
Sex and intimacy affects every aspect of your life – your sense of who you are, health, relationships with others, work, creativity, amongst others.
When sex and intimacy is a source of dissatisfaction or stress and you feel something is missing, it can drain your energy and deeply affect how you feel about yourself (and each other if you are in a relationship).
However, when you feel great about sex and intimacy, these feelings ripple outwards and truly light up your life. You feel more grounded, caring, happier, healthier, vibrant, more resourceful, passionate and creative.
You also have so much more to share with the world, whether that’s your immediate friends and family, your wider community or the world at large.
I absolutely love helping committed couples just like you to break through barriers and reset your sex and intimate lives so that you can uplevel the depths of intimacy and pleasure available inside your bodies and feel these benefits pulsing through your whole life.
Intimacy and communication can be challenging for any couple, but for Highly Sensitive partners, the biggest issue that I see is intimacy and communication can be compounded by the intricacies of our emotional landscapes.
This can feel like a curse rather than a blessing.
The emotional depth and heightened sensitivity that once brought you closer can also make you more susceptible to feeling disconnected.
It’s not your fault that you dont know how to navigate this complex emotional landscape – nobody has shown you a better way.
Consider the story of Petra and Stephan, a couple who experienced firsthand the difficulties of both being highly sensitive individuals. In our first session together, they both discovered how to stay connected with each other even when they felt completely triggered by the other.
For years, they found themselves caught in a cycle of tension and miscommunication. Whenever they tried to discuss their feelings, the conversations would quickly escalate, leading to anger and resentment. Both felt unheard and unappreciated, and their relationship began to fray at the edges.
Petra was astonished by what she discovered in our session
“Hello Mark, I just wanted to tell you once more that I really found the session that we did yesterday really, really good.
How you did it all and how you managed to really keep us in the process.
From my point of view, being a therapist for many, many years, I dare to say that there’s no one that I know that could have done this. So, thank you for that.
I’m very grateful that the first step has been taken.
Yes, I really, I really learned something new, which is also kind of astonishing. This is because I have done so many educational trainings in so many modalities already.
And our session really, really helped me to do exactly what I wanted to do. I wanted to be more loving and more kind, which is my essence.
I really thank you for that. To me this is priceless.
I really think that you are a very special coach and a very special teacher. And I love that you are in my life, yes! You are so giving, and I am looking forward to the next session. Have a wonderful day.
And I will be happy to recommend you and tell my friends and fellow human beings about my experiences with you as an Essence coach”.
Kyle and Jade, both highly sensitive people in their late twenties, were deeply in love but struggled to share their deepest feelings with each other. They avoided emotional discussions because they feared triggering their partner’s nervous system into overwhelm. The lack of heartfelt communication created tension between them, leading to frequent misunderstandings and emotional distance.
Kyle felt overwhelmed by Jade’s intense emotions, and Jade was equally affected by Kyle’s sensitivity. They had moments where they needed to express difficult feelings but hesitated, worried about causing hurt or further emotional distress.
In one particularly rough patch, we had our first call together and Kyle and Jade realized that avoiding conversations was tearing their relationship apart. They discovered that they could set aside time each week for dedicated conversations where both felt prepared and safe to share. They each learned how to to listen deeply, ensuring both felt heard and understood.
In just five months, Kyle and Jade experienced a powerful breakthrough. Their relationship transformed as they learned to navigate their sensitivities together. They reignited the spark in their relationship and experienced a deeper level of intimacy.
By recognizing and addressing the challenge of emotional overwhelm and learning how to have deep, open communication, Kyle and Jade repaired their connection and deepened their intimacy. You too can transform your relationship by following these steps.